As I said, I’m not trying to be cold or unfeeling

I’ve seen a lot of problems like this, including dealing with an alcoholic in my own family who didn’t “wake up” until literally waking up one morning in a psych ward in an area of town she thought was the local ghetto (actually, it has some nice houses there, including some pre-Civil War historical sites that I managed as a landlord at one point and it’s also not far from St. John’s Church where some guy gave some speech about liberty or death). The key point was waking up in a perceived ghetto and realizing she was being treated like everyone else in the ward.

The sad truth is people in addictive situations or who are in some form of denial, as is the case with your son, just have to hit bottom before they change. Bottom is different things for different people. For my relative, it was waking up in what she thought was the ghetto. The more trouble your son has financially while in QS, the faster he’ll be likely to hit bottom. If he has to come back to you, then he’s ready to listen to you. Just don’t take an “I told you so” attitude and use questions to get him to realize what’s going on instead of telling him.

For example, if he loses his apartment, ask, “But what about your friends? You’ve told me that they’re completely behind you. Don’t they believe in you and QS enough to let you rent from them for the time it’ll take before you can afford your own place?

An excellent point

There are many of us here who say all MLMs are bad, some think a few are okay, like Pampered Chef or maybe Avon (and I do know some here who have sent me links about bad situations in Avon), or maybe one or two others. Deb, who is someone I know I respect and whom many of us do respect and hold in high regard, has told us often about her Grandfather and how he was in Amway when the recruiting point was that if you could sell some of the products, you could earn a few extra bucks a month. It wasn’t about getting rich, but about adding something to your income. At one time Amway was actually a functional MLM.

The point is that there are people here of broad opinions, but the email from iam_tam was definitely one-sided. I know the author (is Tam a man or woman?) thinks his/her point of view is balanced, but it isn’t.
There were many comments and thought patterns in that email that are a dead give-away about the author’s point of view. It’s an example of denial. “You guys are one sided because you don’t like what I say,” but the truth is that Tam’s email is quite one sided and I would hope Tam would pay attention to what has been said in response. I asked others to speak without malice, and I tried to, because my hope would be that this person, who has been in MLMs for 20 years but can’t cite any significant success, would read our comments and just possibly consider them and not consider us all “against” him/her.

I hope, but don’t know, if Tam is capable of stepping back and taking a balanced view of this topic.